Ditch Dysfunction: BE H.E.R!
It takes most women quite a while to stop pretending to be someone that they're not. Sometimes, it takes years of living a complete and total charade before we are willing to bring down our walls and get real. We seem to strive blindly to be better, do better, and try to make ourselves into something that society will accept and cherish. These beliefs are keeping us limited from the very start. We want to be "Her", that nameless woman that we think is perfect, but we fall short every time… When we can't be "Her", we get depressed, beat ourselves up, throw in the towel, and wonder if we're worth anything at all.
Why buy into delusions?
You'll never be "Her" because you were meant to be YOU. Chances are, that perfect someone that we idolize is human, just like we are. We may not be able to see it, but she has flaws, insecurities, and struggles too. That’s a reality. The second that you can take off your mask, throw away your self-criticisms, and stay sober enough to take a long hard look in the mirror, you'll see the simple truth:
You ARE amazing! Whether you're uptight in pearls, or tatted up with piercings, you are perfectly unique. Learn to enjoy being H.E.R. instead! When you heal enough to get empowered to just be you, you’re recovery from drugs and delusions just falls into place. You don’t have to fit in a box. You don’t have to fit some played out stereotype. All you have to do is learn to let the authentic you shine through.
Healing is an ongoing process, and it takes time to ditch the faulty thinking that’s been letting you down, but starting to fill the voids within yourself is a really great start. Healing is the direction of your journey, not a singular destination, so get comfortable, get excited, and start the journey to finding yourself, within yourself. Making the commitment to cease self-destructive behaviors allows you to stop dysfunctional cycles and appraise the true cause and effect of what you're manifesting, in the light of clarity to shed the chaos.
It's as simple as believing that you are worthy and that you CAN ascend to whatever it is you aspire to! No schticks,no tricks, you’re beliefs about what is possible are the path to either failure or salvation. Getting empowered means garnering the guts and support to help you go the distance! Being empowered doesn't mean that you won't have obstacles, but it helps you break through the wall to the other side of whatever is that has been blocking your progression forward.
Recovery is a state that takes everything that you have been through into account and uses it as a stepping stone to where you're going. It is a state of presence in THIS moment. It is a reflection of what you’ve learned through making mistakes, and it fuels your determination to stay centered in the little things that make up the bigger beauty of your life.
Being H.E.R. means that you are a uniquely imperfect woman on her way to the life that you deserve. BE that fantastic female that beams back at you in the mirror; she is a wonderful enigma just waiting to be realized.
Recovery IS Possible!
Meg Glidden, MS, NCC