Recovery Is Visible
It's more than a change in pupil size, more than no more slurred speech, and a decline in observable intoxication. Recovery is a process of actions that make healing vibrant, viable, and visible for the world to see. Although many of the hurdles in recovery on fought on the battlefield of the mind, the actionable steps that carry you to success are clearly present and definable.
Whether we want it from others or they want it from us, trust is a two way street because trust doesn't just exist; it's earned. The rigorous honest of recovery assists in rebuilding many burnt bridges, but the path is not always an easy one. Rebuilding trust is a process like anything else. The effort takes time, patience, and actionable proof. As you strive to regain the trust of others, learn to have trust in others, or evaluate yourself for your own trustworthiness, remember that trust is the result of many things. The addictive mind plays tricks on us, even after the chemicals have left the body. Any justification to lie or make bending the rules “ok” is a slippery slope back into the addictive mindset.
“For every good reason to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth.”
Recovery is Visible
Words often become insufficient after stretches of addiction, lies, and manipulation break the bonds with people that once believed you were reliable. It is not in the words you speak in recovery that you will find the greatest support for your goals; it is in the actions.
Recovery is a program of action and trust can only be rebuilt upon a tangible foundation. Luckily, your actions can start rebuilding that foundation as soon as you're free from the delusions that addiction has blinded you with. As you pursue recovery and gain more time living sober, trust becomes possible again due to personal accountability, honest communication, visible changes in behavior. Long term repetition is the best way to rebuild yourself, make sure that your new behaviors stick, and it is the beginning of repairing anything that you may have lost.
SKILL OF THE WEEK: Be Congruent
• Do what you said you would do.
• Be where you said you would be.
• Be dependable.
• Allow your actions to validate the changes you have made.
TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH and trust that although you do not have control over other people, you can have a positive impact on healing your relationships, as long as you do the next right thing, every single time. Recovery is not about trying to convince anyone that you're better. Recovery is about you finding contentment in knowing that you are doing what you need to do to heal.
MAKE NEW CONNECTIONS. Rebuilding relationships is an adventure. Try exploring new experiences with your loved ones that automatically take you out of old routines. The only way to combat old relationship habits, is to create new ones. Change the places that you go together and grow together in your new-found state of recovery. Don’t stay stuck; keep moving forward!
Recovery IS Possible!
Meg Glidden, MS, NCC